Furious mum discovers stillborn son she mourned for 5 years was actually a GIRL

Stacey Lamb claims she was told by a nurse at the delivery in 2011 that she had given birth to a boy and got a headstone and tattoo with the name Daniel in his memory

Stacey Lamb received a post mortem report on her baby who died and has discovered that the child was a girl after she had previously been informed it was a boy whom she named Daniel

Learning the truth about the tot’s gender has turned Stacey's world upside down

A heartbroken mother mother who mourned her stillborn baby son for five years, only to be told by doctors the child was actually a girl.
Stacey Lamb put up a headstone for son Daniel and got his name tattooed on her arm after her child died in the womb at 20 weeks.
The 31-year-old says, in a shocking blunder, a nurse told her at the delivery in 2011 that she had given birth to a stillborn son.
But then this week, she asked to see her medical records and learned that her child was a daughter, reports the Daily Record.

Stacey was already coping with the anguish of knowing that crematorium staff scattered her baby’s ashes without her permission after the funeral.

She says that, in a shocking blunder, a nurse told her at the delivery in 2011 that she had given birth to a stillborn son.

But then this week she asked to see her medical records and learned her child was a daughter.
Stacey was already coping with the anguish of knowing that crematorium staff scattered her baby’s ashes without her permission after the funeral.
Now learning the truth about the tot’s gender has turned her world upside down.
Mum-of-two Stacey, of Tollcross in Glasgow, said: “When I read the post mortem report I thought I was seeing things.
“I expected it to say ‘male’. So when it said ‘female foetus’, I just sat and looked at it in pure shock.
“I thought, ‘Oh my God, I had a baby girl! What am I meant to do now?’
“Every time I think about it I cry. I don’t know what I should do. Should I pay to get another headstone at our family plot for my baby?

“Should I go through the pain of having Daniel’s name lasered from my arm? Do I need to phone the records office to change the baby’s name?
“I’m in shock. I can’t process any of that yet.”

Stacey’s nightmare began when, after an infection in her placenta, a scan revealed at 20 weeks that her baby had no heartbeat.
She had to go through the ordeal of labour. Her child was stillborn on August 24, 2011, at the Princess Royal Maternity Hospital in Glasgow.
Stacey says it was then that a nurse told her the baby was male. She said: “To be fair, we both agreed it was a boy. It did look like it.

“I didn’t know female organs can swell up at that stage and can maybe look male.”
Stacey had “Daniel” tattooed on her arm and had a memorial plaque for him placed next to the graves of other relatives.
She says medics never told her or the child’s father, her then partner Michael Leith, the truth about the baby’s sex.

“When I went to the follow-up meeting in October, they never told me,” she said.
“I even jokingly said to the doctor, ‘I thought you were going to tell me I had a wee girl.’
“She laughed and said, ‘No no’, then asked how I was and how I was coping before going into the post mortem findings.
“She said nothing about the baby being female. I think they were hoping I’d never find out.
“Maybe they wanted to save my feelings instead of telling me the truth.
“I’d had the funeral for a baby I thought was a boy. My doctor probably thought it would ruin me again. But they can’t do that. It’s not their right to keep it from us.
“They can’t hide things like that from parents, especially those who are terrified about falling pregnant again.
“I phoned a counsellor because I can’t cope with this in my head. I need to speak to someone or I’ll make myself ill.
“I’m a mess. My stomach is churning.”
Stacey said she is looking into the possibility of legal action against the health board, and has spoken to lawyers.
“Other women may be in similar situations,” she said.
“A lot of parents knew nothing about the baby ashes scandal until it started getting out into the public eye.”
NHS Greater Glasgow and Clyde, who run the Princess Royal, said: “If an early pregnancy loss is experienced, it can be difficult to determine the sex of the baby.
“Staff would use the term ‘your baby’ in conversations with bereaved parents, rather than refer to a boy or girl.
“We are sorry for any continued distress this lady has experienced.”
Stacey learned the truth about her baby as a result of another tragedy – the treatment she and her family endured in Scotland’s baby ashes scandal.

She held a short funeral for Daniel at Daldowie Crematorium near Glasgow – releasing 50 blue balloons in his memory – and asked for the ashes so she could keep them in a heart-shaped locket.
But staff told her, falsely, that there were no ashes to give her. All she was left with to remember her child was a “memory box” containing the baby’s footprint, scan photos, blanket and cuddly toy.
Stacey, a support worker for the homeless, later learned that the staff had scattered the ashes in a glade near the crematorium.
She said: “The only thing that gives me release is that my grandad died three months later and his ashes are spread in the same glade. I know my baby is there with him – with a loved one.
“I was talking about moving the headstone up to Daldowie. But after what I’ve discovered, that stone doesn’t mean anything to me any more.”
Stacey fought for the truth about what had happened to her baby’s remains and gave evidence to former Lord Advocate Dame Elish Angiolini’s investigation into the ashes scandal.
Dame Elish’s damning report into 200 infant cremations was released last month. It revealed how crematorium workers dumped babies’ ashes without telling their parents.
Stacey said: “They were spreading this ash in places, sometimes putting it in bins. They didn’t care.”
After the findings emerged, Stacey felt she needed more answers about her baby and her family’s ordeal.
She was told she had the right to ask to see her medical records, so she viewed them this week – only to find out the shattering truth about her baby’s gender.
The post mortem report clearly referred to a “female foetus” and said: “The ovaries and other organs of the female reproductive tract are normally constituted.”
Stacey, who has an eight-year-old daughter and an eight-month-old son, said: “After this, I did think that maybe it would have been better for me not to know.
“It sounds terrible, but I grieved for my lost son, not a daughter.
“Now I feel as if I’m grieving for a baby I never knew existed.”